Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
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- Author：Melody Beattie
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Summary
The #1 bestseller that has helped heal millions of readers， this modern classic holds the key to understanding codependency and unlocking its hold on your life。
Melody Beattie’s compassionate and insightful look into codependency—the concept of losing oneself in the name of helping another— has helped millions of readers understand that they are powerless to change anyone but themselves and that caring for the self is where healing begins。
Is someone else's problem your problem？ If， like so many others， you've lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to a loved one’s self-destructive behavior， you may be codependent--and you may find yourself in this book。 With instructive life stories， personal reflections， exercises， and self-tests， Codependent No More helps you to break old patterns， maintain healthy boundaries， and say no to unhealthy relationships。 It offers a clear and achievable path to freedom and a lifetime of healing， hope， and happiness。
This ground-breaking book is even more relevant today， as readers confront new， urgent challenges with greater self-awareness， than it was when it first entered the national conversation over 35 years ago。
Melody Beattie’s compassionate and insightful look into codependency—the concept of losing oneself in the name of helping another— has helped millions of readers understand that they are powerless to change anyone but themselves and that caring for the self is where healing begins。
Is someone else's problem your problem？ If， like so many others， you've lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to a loved one’s self-destructive behavior， you may be codependent--and you may find yourself in this book。 With instructive life stories， personal reflections， exercises， and self-tests， Codependent No More helps you to break old patterns， maintain healthy boundaries， and say no to unhealthy relationships。 It offers a clear and achievable path to freedom and a lifetime of healing， hope， and happiness。
This ground-breaking book is even more relevant today， as readers confront new， urgent challenges with greater self-awareness， than it was when it first entered the national conversation over 35 years ago。
Reviews
Guerry Sisters
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Thank you to #partner Spiegel & Grau for our copy of Codependent No More by Melody Beattie。Although this book has been available for awhile， the revised copy publishes on October 25th， 2022。Rating: 5 starGenre: Non-fictionThoughts: If both Glennon Doyle and Jen Hatmaker recommend a book， you know you need to read it immediately！ I feel like I have heard so much buzz around this book。If you enjoy nonfiction books around psychology， mental health， or self-help， then this is a must read！ I also thi Thank you to #partner Spiegel & Grau for our copy of Codependent No More by Melody Beattie。Although this book has been available for awhile， the revised copy publishes on October 25th， 2022。Rating: 5 starGenre: Non-fictionThoughts: If both Glennon Doyle and Jen Hatmaker recommend a book， you know you need to read it immediately！ I feel like I have heard so much buzz around this book。If you enjoy nonfiction books around psychology， mental health， or self-help， then this is a must read！ I also think this would be an awesome book to listen to on audio too！ 。。。more
Janilyn Kocher
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We all have been too reliant on someone or something in our lives。 What’s dangerous is when that develops into an unhealthy relationship。Beattie’s book， newly revamped and updated， gives useful advice and tips for readers who are battling their own bonds with codependency。I think the one that rings the loudest is learn to like/love yourself。 Too many times people search for love and happiness within someone else， but if you’re not happy with yourself and like yourself you will never find what yo We all have been too reliant on someone or something in our lives。 What’s dangerous is when that develops into an unhealthy relationship。Beattie’s book， newly revamped and updated， gives useful advice and tips for readers who are battling their own bonds with codependency。I think the one that rings the loudest is learn to like/love yourself。 Too many times people search for love and happiness within someone else， but if you’re not happy with yourself and like yourself you will never find what you’re seeking。Thanks to Spiegel and Grau for the complimentary copy。 。。。more
Elicia
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3。5I can see why this book set the stage for so much that’s been researched and done in the past 30 years。
Angela
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While there is plenty of information for others， this book tends to focus on alcoholics or adults and their families。 I found it distracting。
Katelynn Golby-Larson
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Took me literal months to finish this book but I think I needed to digest it in small chunks。 Very practical but it does repeat itself a lot。
Amy L
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The first half of the book was really healing here and there。 There are things in this book that made me think about my life more and made me want to change。
HorrorBook HellHound
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As a non-Christian there are points in this book that get a little irksome， BUT as a whole this book has really helped me open my eyes to my own codependent behaviors and made me feels so much better and stronger as a person。 Would highly recommend even if you are not a Christian to read this book if you struggle at all with codependency， toxic relationships， and even BPD as well。
Natasha Wali
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This book is very geared toward people who have loved ones who are abusing substances。 But it ALSO offers life changing straightforward insight to anyone who feels they have experienced codependency in their relationships。 A recommended read for all。
Amanda Tero
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I picked this up at someone’s recommendation。 It does give a good education about the dangers and depths of codependency as well as provides action steps to apply。 It pulls out the importance of individual choice and responsibility。Personally， I prefer books with more Scriptural foundation。 It is actually very ecumenical with a mix of Scripture， mysticism， and other religious statements。I can see where elements of this book are helpful， even for conservative Christians because codependency （taki I picked this up at someone’s recommendation。 It does give a good education about the dangers and depths of codependency as well as provides action steps to apply。 It pulls out the importance of individual choice and responsibility。Personally， I prefer books with more Scriptural foundation。 It is actually very ecumenical with a mix of Scripture， mysticism， and other religious statements。I can see where elements of this book are helpful， even for conservative Christians because codependency （taking responsibility for someone else’s actions and feelings） is something many are unaware of and have an unhealthy practice of。 However， I can’t exactly recommend it openly because of the adult content and no real Biblical foundation。 。。。more
Hannie Duncan
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Religious af
Shea
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baring it all for the reading challenge total
Talia
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Powerful wake up callThis book simultaneously gives you two perspectives on codependency: 1） from the dependent and 2） from the codependent。 It can be harsh， but what’s in here is necessary to acknowledge for growth。 I will say that you may have to replace certain definitions with your own。 For example， in my case the dependent is not chemically dependent as it is defined in this book （e。g， an alcoholic） but nonetheless just as destructive。 Same thing goes for the concept of God’s love and his p Powerful wake up callThis book simultaneously gives you two perspectives on codependency: 1） from the dependent and 2） from the codependent。 It can be harsh， but what’s in here is necessary to acknowledge for growth。 I will say that you may have to replace certain definitions with your own。 For example， in my case the dependent is not chemically dependent as it is defined in this book （e。g， an alcoholic） but nonetheless just as destructive。 Same thing goes for the concept of God’s love and his plan， if that is something that doesn’t resonate with you。 All in all， it’s a book I will recommend to anyone who has ever put their own needs on the back burner。 。。。more
Rachel Smith
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I had heard good things about this book， so I was looking forward to reading it。 But as I read， it became obvious that the author was not accounting for systemic oppression， neurodivergencies， power imbalances in relationships， or any mental illnesses other than addiction。 She constantly suggests Christianity is required to heal from codependency， even though the book is not advertised as a religious work。 She references debunked mental health concepts and disorders， contradicts herself frequent I had heard good things about this book， so I was looking forward to reading it。 But as I read， it became obvious that the author was not accounting for systemic oppression， neurodivergencies， power imbalances in relationships， or any mental illnesses other than addiction。 She constantly suggests Christianity is required to heal from codependency， even though the book is not advertised as a religious work。 She references debunked mental health concepts and disorders， contradicts herself frequently， and lists healthy human behaviors （such as crying or feeling frustrated） along with domestic abuse （such as controlling a partner's access to resources or threatening them with violence） as implied equal symptoms of codependency。 While she pays lip service to therapy and medication for mental health， she also repeatedly stigmatizes them and suggests they are ineffective。 The first few chapters have a judgmental， blaming， and abrasive tone toward codependent people， before flipping to a more sympathetic tone that contradicts many of the earlier points， making the beginning an off-putting and needless experience。 Lastly， the book actually focuses not on general codependency， but on people with loved ones who have compulsive behaviors; many pages are devoted to explaining and recommending 12-step programs。 Overall， this book would have benefitted from massive editing to make the concepts cohesive， a more accurate title， and sensitivity readers。 。。。more
Lizkin
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Чудовищный перевод электронной книги。 Неплохое введение в тему созависимости。 Не стоит ожидать конкретных советов。
Thea
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Less Christianity would have made this a lot better。
Christine
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This isn’t a book you finish and walk away from。 It is a reference book you keep by your bedside and flip through as you experience the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune。
Carrie Anderson
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I think this is too dated of a book at this point。 Great basic concepts but really needs updating and expanding out to relationships beyond husband and wife。 Also the references to alcoholics got old because that isn’t part of my story and it felt like she conflated codependency with being the wife of an alcoholic man。
Madi Howard
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it is a self help book。 it helped me self help。
Li Hall
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Read it again and received so much more this time。 Perhaps because of my maturity and deeper understanding of myself or because I read the audio book this time。
Brenda Pike
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This book is probably helpful for somebody， but it's designed for more extreme situations than mine （and it's very focused on alcoholism）。 This book is probably helpful for somebody， but it's designed for more extreme situations than mine （and it's very focused on alcoholism）。 。。。more
Viktorija
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Tai buvo pirma mano perklausyta knyga。Nors nesu ko-priklausoma ar turinti priklausomybių， tačiau atradau naudingų patarimų kaip rūpintis savimi。
Laura Bartusevičiūtė
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3。5 retokai beskaitau self-help knygas， bet vasarą atėjo noras panagrinėti kai kuriuos aspektus。 Tad laiku užčiuopiau norą paskaityti ir atradau labai neblogų įžvalgų apie kontrolę + patiko II skyriaus rūpinimosi savimi pagrindai。 Bet šiek tiek erzino dievo ir aukštesniosios jėgos dalykai （kurių， laimei， buvo nedaug）
Kristine
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Dated。 Mostly for people living with alcoholics and addicts。 Found examples too simplified， a bit remote from real life。 The book gave no real solutions， no plan， no real advice。
Sara Straub
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Essential guidebook for anyone finding their life consumed by a difficult problem or another person。 Highly recommend！！
Mcat
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This was recommended to me by my therapist。 It’s the first book I’ve read on this subject and will not be the last。There is a lot of good information in this book， and I’m glad to have read it and identified many of my problems as codependent tendencies。 Now to work on fixing those issues。I only wish this book didn’t skew so religious。 The talk of god just isn’t for me。 Most people aren’t Christian， and it’s alienating and annoying to have their god thrown in one’s face when the issue of codepen This was recommended to me by my therapist。 It’s the first book I’ve read on this subject and will not be the last。There is a lot of good information in this book， and I’m glad to have read it and identified many of my problems as codependent tendencies。 Now to work on fixing those issues。I only wish this book didn’t skew so religious。 The talk of god just isn’t for me。 Most people aren’t Christian， and it’s alienating and annoying to have their god thrown in one’s face when the issue of codependency knows no specific religion。It also delved into 12-Step programs frequently， especially Al-Anon。 I found this to be rather off-topic and useless info for those of us who have no interest in 12-step groups。 。。。more
Jennifer
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Best book ever on giving advice on becoming no longer dependent。 Some of the exercises left me with a new lease on life。 The reading of the book made me cry because I found myself in those pages。 I was taking care of people and letting myself go。 I was also taking blame for something that wasn't my fault。 This book will help anyone who is in a codependent relationship。 It gives you steps to take to heal yourself and steps to go find other people like yourself。 It made me see that I was trying to Best book ever on giving advice on becoming no longer dependent。 Some of the exercises left me with a new lease on life。 The reading of the book made me cry because I found myself in those pages。 I was taking care of people and letting myself go。 I was also taking blame for something that wasn't my fault。 This book will help anyone who is in a codependent relationship。 It gives you steps to take to heal yourself and steps to go find other people like yourself。 It made me see that I was trying to fix my daughters mistakes and making myself sick in the process。 This book will give you the coping skills to get better and to move on with your life。 I am not saying it's easy; but I believe if you read this book you will see the path to your healing。 There are some steps and I didn't realize that I was stuck in one of the steps and needed to move on。 Most of all I realized I can't fix anyone else's problem and that I need to give that to my higher power。 I also have the right to say this is how you make me feel when you do this。 。。。more
Yvette LaCroix
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I can understand why this book was groundbreaking when it came out in the 1980s。 Reading it in 2022， I found it to be outdated and very repetitive。 Having said that， I did still get some helpful perspective。 If you are in a codependent relationship due to addiction issues， I think this book can be helpful to you in knowing that you are not alone， how Al-anon type programs can help you and how you can help yourself。
Jensa
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Some great reminders that only Codependent personalities would find helpful。 Lots of obvious points made， but a few permissions given that I really needed to hear。 Wish I would have read this in my teen years！
Dasha Pastushenko
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saved me when i was all alone last year
Alicia Tonne
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